Yesterday was fine. Hubby is on an overnight trip (left early this morning) for an in-person job interview. I'm working through a list of chores and such. Nothing exciting.
I've been thinking about 3 questions I ask myself these days -- and I need a regular reminder because I forget as much as I remember! These are from life coaching (with a little personal flavor). Sometimes I ask all three, sometimes just one ... whatever the situation needs.
(1) How would my future self show up in this situation?
This is such a good question because you actually WILL know the answer. Doesn't mean you want to do it, but you will know what your future self would do. My future self is leaning toward growth and this helps remind me to lean toward growth now. It's easy to decide from default mode. This question pulls me out of default.
(2) What's the matter love?
Again, you'll know the answer or be able to work into the answer. When I'm low grade upset -- something running in the background but not acknowledged. Background feelings need to be acknowledged and I've spent too much of my life ignoring them, telling myself it's "nothing important" or little things don't matter. They may run in the background but they hold a lot of power over my day if I don't address them.
(3) Am I setting a seat at the table for me too?
I get into people pleasing mode -- and I like to do things for people, but I need to remind myself I'm "people" too. I get a seat at the table. Some of my preferences and such get to be included too.
I use these questions most often around decisions. When I'm stuck in indecision or the choice I'm making doesn't feel good -- they help clarify choices quickly.
Maybe these will help you too.
Have a great Tuesday. Later gators.
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