Let's Talk GOALS

I know there are multiple camps on New Year's Resolutions.  I like January as a time to reset and this year I'm hitting GOALS and future focus heavy too.  Heavier than I ever have ... but I don't think of them as NYR.  It's a good as time as ever to plan the year ahead and plan my life ahead (for that matter).

The more I read and learn, the more I'm interested in making a plan going forward.  I had a plan in life ... lots of the big things.  Get married, raise kids, live in a house, save money, become a nurse, run a marathon, travel.  You get the idea.  Now, I'm finished with most of my "life" plans (or at least active in those plans) and it's time to focus on other things.

Without the distraction of little kids to raise and a career (jury is still out on retirement), I have much more downtime in my brain and turns out my brain likes to be negative, complain-y and mean to me.  Who knew???  I didn't notice how bad it had become until I had so much brain downtime.

That's where all this woo-woo stuff comes in -- train my brain in a different way.  Time to enjoy the accomplished goals, set new goals and work forward (and be nice to myself along the way).

Here's what I did ...

Gretchen Rubin
I took her suggestions and made a list of 19 things for 2019.  Some fun.  Some easy.  Some necessary to-do list stuff.  Things I need and want to get finished in 2019.  It's eclectic and specific.  Some resemble New Year's Resolutions.

I also gave 2019 a word.  SHINE.  Everyone is doing a word this year hahahaha.  Guess I'm finally on-trend instead of behind.  I wrote about it last week and it's on my vision board.





Brooke Castillo and Rachel Hollis
Using RH daily goal planner, I wrote 10 goals.  RH suggests focusing on one per year.  My goals don't fit that format right now.  10 years ago they did - when we were younger and still in the building season of our life.  I never wrote them down, but I had a list in my head (P.S. that worked too).  I have some future goals, but I don't need to wait so many years for the rest of them.  Does that make sense?

I used Brooke's idea of adding goals I've already achieved in the list too.  This helps your mind see abundance and success.  I am a nurse.

Some of the goals are more reminders.  Be a better friend.  That kind of thing.

I am free from desserts.  That's GR helping to phrase the goal in the positive.  Her sister did this -- free from french fries.  If the goal is, "I won't eat dessert," it's received differently in the mind.





Coach Holly and PHB
We did a personal motto for PHB and I included mine in the RH book.  It's the most woo-woo of it all, but I wrote it so why not "see" it too.  Reminders to be better.





Goals are my afternoon routine addition.  I review the lists, think about them, write them down again (in the daily planner).  I added the 19 goals to the front of the book and my motto to the back.

At times, this seems dumb.  Weirdly trendy and so I-have-nothing-else-to-do-that's-actually-important.  Then I listen to successful people (not just life coaches) and THEY do this stuff (like even my neighbor!!!!).  Goals, planning, reviewing, routines, self-care, personal growth.  Guess it's not dumb.  It's at least worth a good honest effort to see how it works for me.

Later gators.