Coaching for the Win

Coaching is/has helped me so much. Family drama came to another head yesterday morning and at 10:30 at night. I talked through with both boys using some coaching inspired perspectives. I hope and expect the worst is over and we can move forward with a fun wedding celebration. Weddings bring out the best and the worst.

I made it to the Garden Lights event last evening. It was beautiful (it's my 3rd time going over the years). The other "original" planner backed out a couple hours before because she was sick. That left 3 of us. When I met up with the woman who communicated with me, we waited for the final person ... and waited. I messaged her -- no response. Finally she responded that she wasn't coming. What?!?! When was she going to let us know -- I guess never. You say you are coming the day before and then don't have a thought to let anyone know you changed your mind? I told the group we would wait at the meeting place for anyone who responded they were coming. Then she boo-hooed about how sad she was to miss the night. WTH. 

Lesson learned. I hate that I have a growing list of things I won't do anymore. Big plans with certain friends, ticketed events unless I'm happy to go by myself, time of day plans with certain groups. People extra suck holding commitments lately and are selfish about communicating changes. 

The evening was nice though and I had a good time catching up -- kind of like a 2nd date. I know her, but not well. I haven't seen her in over a year. I'm proud I held my commitment when that was the last thing I wanted to do. I showed up -- and that's important to me. Also, thank goodness she did too. Ironically, she's someone who usually says she's coming and doesn't. That's why I haven't seen her in over a year.

I started the Priya Parker 7 week workshop and it's already paying off. The first pre-lesson had an example of a wedding and how the intention of the event plays a big role in the decisions -- decisions that are not always agreeable with everyone. It gave me a solid perspective on the wedding situation and a lot of understanding -- something I needed to really hear and learn. It also helped to remind me the intention of the Garden Lights event. I was sour grapes all afternoon, but changed up my perspective to remember the night can still accomplish the intention -- and it did. 

I'm not hiking this morning because of the icy conditions on the trails. I have a few errands and office work today so it'll be a full one still. Moving my solo hike to Thursday (if all goes as planned) -- temps in the 50s by then. 

Adding to my morning routine is house prep for the day ... just-in-case kind of prep. It's the main reason a house on the market is a pain in the butt. Again, it is what it is and I wish it wasn't lol.

Hope you're off to a good start this week. Later gators.