The week continues to be busy - in a good way.
Half my "busy" is dog walking. All 3 dogs need to be walked separately. Duke is in training on his walk, Parker walks ever so slowly (poor baby) and Sky is afraid and needs attention. THIS and hubby is out of town. All me, all day. Got some good steps in though.
I'm up early to hit the 7:15 boxing class so I still have acceptable weather to walk the dogs this morning. If I reverse it, I'll never go to class. Have to do the HARD first.
I'm ready for cooler weather, less busy week and less solo dog walking. I'm not holding my breath on any of those yet.
I need to focus my self-confidence today. Assuming (imagining) what someone else's actions mean is pure fantasy. We were asked in PHB to comment on everyone's Negative Roommate assignment (there are 4 of us). One of the ladies commented on everyone's but mine. She also responded to everyone's comments, but mine (she "liked" it). I'm taking it personally. I need to stop it. It might not be what I'm thinking (she doesn't like me) and if that is the case, it's okay. Giving me the cold shoulder reflects more on her than me.
We also have a new member on our rescue team helping with applications. She started training with me and had to take a break because her mom was ill. She started back up, over my head and is training with someone else. What? No reach out to me - nothing. Again, I'm assuming. It's as possible that this person reached out to HER and offered training. She knows I've been really busy with applications and this might be an effort to help ME.
I'm quick to assume people's actions are about me in a negative way. It IS a fantasy. It IS imagination. It's equally probable that it's not about me or it's bent in a kind way. Choosing to believe the latter thoughts makes me feel better. It also prevents me from taking action (ignoring the person, not being as openly friendly) that actually LEAD to the first assumption.
Self-help lesson of the day! Ha ha ha - just kidding. But, it is something I've read in a couple of books lately and I'm going to put it into practice today. Not only am I assuming GOOD intention, I'm going to act on it too. Reach out to them again. Put myself out "there" a little more with NO expectations.
If I think about the negative fantasy, it will ruin my day. I'll play that loop in my head, over and over.
In other news, I'm going to figure out that picture thing this weekend and get back to some lighter posts with more FUN stuff.
Off to box - later gators.
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