The hike was so much fun. Cooler, crisp weather made all the difference. We hustled and cut our time by HALF! The conversation was fun too -- talked everything from ghosts and spirits to vacations.
The new NY Deli that opened is terrific. I took a separate car and was there early so I got to chat with the owner (CURIOUS). Made the experience better and my lunch selection delicious. I got the cauliflower GF crust (made in store) with prosciutto and arugula. (Pre-gaming for Italy.)
This is where it turned a bit. The neighborhood "mayor" joined us -- self appointed busy body and a big part of why I quit bookclub. She arrived and saw me at the table, looked me up and down and said, "oh, I didn't know the entire neighborhood was invited." I picked up that comment and gave it right back to her (about getting lost getting there). Snarky, yep. Felt good, yep. She heard me loud and clear - yep. Funny enough, 3 other neighbors were invited that she thought were going to come -- the comment was about me. She dominated the conversation ENTIRELY on a neighborhood situation. We need to go to the district attorney, TV stations, sue the builder, etc. No exaggeration. Nothing light, nothing positive, nothing enjoyable.
I kept up some side conversations that were light (about the food mostly). I countered her aggressive stand a few times then I left the table to shop in the store. They have lots of food gifts and I did a bit of Christmas shopping. The really nice neighbor (who moved) came up to me and ask if the conversation was upsetting me -- because the mayor thought so (probably happy about it) -- what a witch. I said I wasn't upset, but didn't want to join her crazy call-to-arms. Stood up for myself, nicely, but honestly. Had my own back. Maybe this neighborhood thing is a problem (super long story), but before we overreact, let's take a breath AND NOT LET THE MAYOR DECIDE FOR US!!
After the lunch, I had my nail appointment. I shook off the energy from the mayor and had a great nail appointment -- best conversation. Turns out we both have been to the Korean Bath House and had similar experiences. Story for another day, but all about walking around nude and the little ladies who love their birthday suits LOL.
Holly told me to pay attention to how people's energy effects me and make adjustments accordingly. Yesterday, I did that and it was interesting.
Energy on the hike was awesome -- nature, conversation, connection.
Energy BEFORE the mayor came (luckily 45 minutes late since she was lost LOL) was great.
I did a good job of blocking her negative Nelly comments and conversation.
Energy at my nail appointment was also fun and energizing.
Holly says some people will drain you, some will energize you. Pay attention. Some are obvious, some more subtle. That's why social situations can feel overwhelming or feel amazing -- even when the social "thing" seems similar.
Two big takeaways were being CURIOUS and watching ENERGY. Made for a fun, full day that left me energized and happy.
PSA for my future self (who will forget to remember this, over and over). Later gators.
P.S. Remember that I declined GNI on Thursday night? Fall craft making for $15, bring wine and bring appetizer. This is what my extremely crafty friend made -- and I know it had to be the nicest one. This made me laugh and glad I chose not to go. Looks like a pumpkin with salad on top -- maybe I'm still being snarky LOL.
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