A Break

Today I'm taking a mental step-back. 

No news today.

No volunteering today. 

Just for today.

Yesterday drained me silly -- until 10:30 at night. I was exhausted. Feel that sort of hangover feeling today. Not recovered, not feeling myself. Possible all day volunteering tomorrow. 

So today needs to be something else. 

Hello, gardening my friend. 

Grow room set-up today. 

Fingers crossed the set-up survived the move.

A friend mentioned a local Native Plant organization that hosts lots of information. It's not on the agenda for our spring projects, but I want to start learning. The goal for my little yard. I know as little as one can know -- lots of room to learn. And, it'll be interesting. 

One goal ahead of native plant landscaping is a cutting flower garden. I wonder if I can make that work this year? It might be a stretch because the yard isn't ready, but maybe starter version?? Something to look into.

And what about this storm?? Nothing on the ground at all and it seems like nothing coming for my area. Unless I'm missing something ... looks like snow missed us. What's left is cold and wind -- which is a horrible situation for many and that's what volunteering is focusing on right now.

Here are a couple of pictures, just because. 

Letting out my dog.
Morning view of the craft room.

"Blanket" finished.

Stay warm and safe and check on your neighbors. 

Have a good day. Later gators.

New Lows

Life feels really low right now. 

Voter rolls from 2020 taken from GA. Every ounce of evidence is in the hands of the federal government now and they'll give whatever narrative that works for them to prevent a free and fair election in GA. And they control the evidence so no one can say differently. They are stealing the mid-term elections right before our eyes. 

What the actual f*%K. 

The hits keeps coming. 

Standing up to ALL these things is exhausting for people. 

Today is an all-hands to help our community. 

And, the volunteer court position is spinning out of control. The family unit is struggling and it's heartbreaking. I have a call that I'll step out of my meeting to take to try and figure out a way to help this family. 

Ugh. 

And, another storm on Saturday which delays all the action steps until roads clear. 

I'll leave it at that this morning. Looking for an upswing and that comes in the doing. 

We have to help each other -- not just clutch our pearls. 

Later gators.

Elmo Bed

Yesterday was a nice day.

Starting with the thrifted lamp and my morning view. 

Cozy and peaceful.

I stopped for a coffee a bit out of town to donate men's shoes. Ethiopian owner -- incredible person. Love this place, but, sadly, rarely stop by because I have so many great choices in my town. He takes worn sneakers to be recycled into playground mats and others get donated directly to people in need. 

Texted my eldest and we met for a lunch -- political chat and how to get involved. 

Came home and made my grandson a bed for his Elmo doll out of craft scraps I had around. I'll make the blanket today. He's into imagination play right now -- so adorable. 

(It's sloppy, but it's just for a little playtime fun.)

Today is another mostly open day because I postponed the trip to Asheville. My cancel friend (who almost got a new moniker) canceled coffee today late last night. I'm sure it has to do with her grandchildren -- she says "too many moving parts" today. The coffee plans were initiated by her -- day and time too.

I'm trying (and a little failing) to let this roll-off, but it feels disrespectful to MY time to have a late cancel. I didn't opt for a lunch with someone today to hold this time. I could've said "something else came up" but I didn't. And, I know she's busy before she leaves to visit family this weekend -- so I "should" be more understanding. It's a pattern with her though. I don't believe she can't fit an hour in for a coffee so I expect this is a last minute babysitting ask from her daughter. 

I was starting to trust her ability to hold plans again, and this feels like a slide backwards. Her daughter ends maternity leave in February and my friend will be helping with 3 kids because they don't have a full-time sitter. Writing is on the wall. 

Anyway -- I have a social/political meeting tonight. The local organizers of No Kings is holding a social gathering to be with people who are standing up. We'll talk about what's happening, next steps, recruiting others, and share some time together. One of the head organizers in our area is a friend's daughter. The next No Kings Protest is March 28 -- my calendar is marked, signs are made. 

Hope you have a good day. Country is a shit-show, FBI entered Atlanta for voter records ... but we MUST find the good in our days too. Find the helpers. Be the helpers. Later gators.

Books and TV

Good morning. 

I just finished morning calls to my representatives. 

Urging you to do as well.

Important votes this week.

I got the court report written yesterday. Final read-through and edit today. I pushed ahead so I didn't get any of my little treats in, but it was worth it. Coherent and concise -- maybe, I'll find out today. There's so much redundancy in the sections so I need space before the final edit. 

Today is a relatively free day and you bet I'm having some fun today. I put out 2 last minute invitations for lunch and both were a no-go. Looks like it's me-myself-and-I AND a book. That makes me equally happy (if not a bit happier). 

Speaking of books, I finished this one from the author day. I liked it -- probably liked it more because of my time listening to the author. It's more interesting when you know extra details. Her writing process, her research, her background, her intentions, the editing, the cover design, etc. 

(Of course, that didn't help AT ALL with my hairdresser's book.)

Started this one. Rosamunde Pilcher is a comfort read for me. Not a palette cleanser, fast, engaging (like a suspense book) ... but a slow, quiet, lovely read. It's a chonker and I read it slowly, but it's exactly what I need right now. A quiet escape to help fill my tank a teeny tiny bit. I absolutely LOVE the way she writes -- her stories are a slow burn, but the writing engages you all the way. 

Speaking of comfort ... I'm rewatching Rizzoli and Isles. Not sure I'll watch the entire show again, but it's nice for now. I know, it's murder, but it's cozy murder. And the relationships on the show -- family and friends feels comforting to watch. It has a lot of funny one-liners. 

I'm super slowly reading this book. It's NOT a tank filler, but feels important to read. I probably won't finish the entire book (skim parts), but I want to get a sense of the messaging. 

The question is which book today? Comfort or important?? Maybe I'll bring both along and decide. I need to go to a coffee shop to drop a donation AND I want to go to lunch. One book for each? Actually, Abundance might win out because I want to get it finished and it's not a good book to read before bed. Hmmm.

I made an appointment next week with my acupuncturist because my foot isn't completely healing. Hopefully, this can get it to the finish line. I miss hiking and running. 

That'll push my Asheville trip yet another day. Of course, weather is still iffy with a potential storm over the weekend so who knows when I'll get there. 

That's winter for you --- and I'll take it. Worth the inconvenience. 

Have a good day. Later gators. 

Give Me a Sign

Made signs yesterday morning. 

Took the longest ...
letters take me forever,
and involve MATH.

Saw this on IG.
This was quick.

Hubby and I grabbed lunch, ran a few errands, and I made one more sign. 

A bit snarky.

A bit sloppy (I was losing steam rapidly ...)

But, I like it.

(Copied from a picture I saw on IG)

I watched a webinar on ICE last night. Informative.

Shared the link with friends -- getting others involved is part of taking action.

One of the errands was a Marketplace pickup at a favorite antique market. There was a set of vintage lamps, but one was damaged. Nice lighting makes a difference and I'm slowly replacing cheap lamps. 

Good lamp shades are hard to find too. Cheap white ones everywhere. It's really complicated to find a replacement shade -- size in both directions, shape, attachment (you can buy adaptors). I've gotten it wrong so many times. How the shade attaches makes a difference in the overall fit and the combination of both make it complicated. I guess I need to learn to cover the plain ones. When I look for lamps, I only buy ones with shades and shades are something different than plain white. 

It's really heavy and pretty.
Wish it were a tad bigger.

Today is mostly court report writing. Good lord, it takes a long time and this is another tricky one. Hours and hours trying to get the wording and the reporting tone right.

I'll also figure out a little fun today. Maybe a rock painting minute. Maybe a coffee house with a book. We'll see. It's bitter cold again this morning. Not complaining at all. We need a deep freeze to kill surface eggs or our summer is extra bug infested. 

It's time for the grow room. It was on the schedule for Sunday, but no power ended that idea. Way too dark in the basement. I also need to figure out WHERE. I planned to do it in the storage area, but realized it might be too cold. Maybe it'll be warmer soon and I have a heating pad. 

Decisions. I don't want to go to all the trouble only to get no yield. But it takes up a lot of room and is an eye sore and messy. Moved this to the weekend schedule. I need to do some thinking. 

That's all for this morning. Hope you're having a good week. 

I'll update on books and TV shows tomorrow (if I get my act together). 

I also have an update on my aches and pains -- with a possible cause. Riveting, right?!?

Later gators. 

Back to Business

Well, I spoke too soon yesterday. 

Power went out about an hour after I posted -- 8 hours. 

We could hear transformers blowing over and over.

It was a LONG day hah.

Looks like it's all good for today. Roads are dry. 

I was planning to go to Asheville tomorrow, but I moved it to next week. Asheville is sheet of ice and temps are staying low. 

So what's on the agenda today?

First up (already) -- and every day ... calling my representatives. It matters and I urge you to do the same. In a sea of "what can I do" ... this is easy and fast and important. You can call at anytime -- remember to leave your address or it doesn't count. 

When I called yesterday, I burst into tears. It was hard to get the words out. I'm so sad for MN and so proud of them too. 

I invited the hiking group to make signs for local protests, but it got canceled because of something the weather. I want to have signs ready to go because that's what's stopping me from joining the local protests -- don't have a sign, don't even have supplies. Many small protests are last minute.

Bought all the stuff (and extra for everyone else), changed the date to today at the request of a couple of the ladies. Someone suggested last Thursday that we postpone it and they fell like a deck of cards. I understand -- no one should come out in ice (but the roads are clear this morning) and Thursday was a bit premature to make that call. 

I said nope -- I'm still making signs. Glad to join the group if they decide another date (but I'm not hosting or bringing all the supplies). That was my offer -- and the offer expired. This group cancels on a dime and I'm not trying again. They have no skin in the game so it was no big deal for everyone to cancel. If I thought another date change would hold, I would've changed it. I KNOW it'll be the same next time too -- just some other excuse.

As it turns out, the roads are dry and we could've done this as a group. Of course, it could've been too icy, but why not wait to make the call until after the storm. If it was too icy, it's not like anyone would've made other plans. I said it nicely, but not people-pleasing this group anymore. I bet everyone drives somewhere today.

And, I'll enjoy making signs by myself. Some music, some tea -- creative project with a purpose. 

I painted a rock yesterday while there was enough window light. I messed up the umbrella and had to "fix" it -- not the look I was planning, but it's okay. Maybe I'll try this one again at some point.

A workout.

More court report writing.

That's my day. 

It's Monday and I feel relief in the proverbial reset of a new week. 

Last week was a lot, the weekend (and MN) was so much. I'm "off" again. Looking to set myself back on track today. The week looks different, a little quieter since I was planning to be out of town. I'll take it. 

I need to remember to use the quiet for good though. This isn't a "pull-the-covers-over-my-head, cheese, and sugar" week hah. Sounds good, but feels crappy. 

I have the luxury of finding space to fill up my tanks again. Last week took it out of me. Showing up for myself and my community in other ways this week.

Have a good Monday. Later gators.

Heavy Heart

Power is still on. We got about 1/4" of ice overnight. Looks like shiny rain, but when you step on it you know it's ice. It'll stay freezing rain until about noon, then over to just rain.

Asheville's power is on too, but our cameras show more ice and it's still coming down.

But, this feels extra unimportant. 

The execution in MN yesterday is overwhelming. 

My god. 

What is happening?

What can WE do?

Where is sanity?

Where is our humanity?

Where the f*^K is our government?

Also -- call your Senators and Representatives. There's an app if you need help. 5 Calls. 

I don't have anything else to say today.

I hope you stay safe and warm. My heart and prayers and unbelievable admiration to the people of MN. They are showing us the way. 

9 - 5

9-5 yesterday -- meetings and volunteering.

(And, yes, the song is on repeat in my head.)

From one thing to the next.

Long day. All worthy efforts.

I need to be careful to not get sucked into EVERYTHING though. I want to hold the priorities that feel right for me to focus. It's hard to say no, but I'll end up feeling like it's too much and detach too far. There is SO MUCH to do. If everyone does a part and does the part(s) that speaks to them, we can start to fill in gaps and make progress. All the services are worthy, but we need ALL of us in action. 

(I'll stop here, because I feel a rant starting!)

Of course, we're all bracing for the whopper of a storm coming overnight. 

Power outages are the concern for us (we don't need to be on the roads fortunately).

No power can mean frozen pipes, etc. 

Hats off to the line workers -- dangerous, exhausting work ahead.

Calm before the storm. 

(It's moments like this that I'm especially glad I'm retired. Mandated to the hospital, treacherous driving, short staffed. Good to have that behind me. Hearts to those still doing it.)

Our back porch construction starts today. We should've postponed (and I hope the contractor changes his mind). No way he'll finish today and that feels like the last thing we need ahead of what could be a real mess. The decision was made between two men -- shocking, right? Nice to not be involved with this, but ... then I get what I get.

I have to work on a report for my volunteer position today -- the one that takes hours and hours to write. It's due next week, but I'd like to get a chunk finished today. If we have power, I'll finish it up tomorrow. And, as almost every time, my supervisor is away and "sorry I won't be available to answer questions." The report can only be written so far in advance so it's not like I can adjust my timeframe more than a few days. I wish I had a different supervisor. Frankly, she's the dud of the group. 

Next week is totally up-in-the-air with the storm. The icing will end around mid-day tomorrow. Fingers crossed for everyone. Many people are bracing for a long road ahead. 

If I don't check in, we lost power. I'll be back when all is well.

Stay safe and warm. Later gators.

Different Ways of Good

Having fun is, well, FUN!

It feels good. 

My week has been anything but fun.

And, it feels GOOD.

I need both kinds of good.

Keeping promises to myself. Leaning into who I want to be. Hooking up Future Me. Helping people. Making the extra effort.

Gardening class was fantastic. I was reminded of a lot AND learned a lot -- always worth it.

Went to the women's meeting. Long and very informative -- well worth going.

Lots of things in-between. Targeted donations to specific people, errands for future gatherings, getting ready for a grow-room (and sharing plants).

More not-so-fun to come on Friday and a bit next week too. 

First soup set and ready for the freezer (second one today). Veggie, quinoa, chickpea. Warm and flavorful and filling. It's a go-to soup with no recipe. Just whatever I have and add warm spices. 

A little time to paint a rock ...

As much as I'm grumbling about "no fun," today is FUN. My HS friend is coming over to see the house and we're going to lunch. 

I'm giving her letters from 1988 that she wrote to me. One letter announces the "new boyfriend" who she's been married to for 33 years -- the way she describes him is adorable. The second letter says she thinks it's going so well and this has legs -- "it's wonderful." So sweet! No one from HS even remembers writing letters, let alone saving them. I'm happy I did and even happier that I can give them back 37+ years later. Who would know we'd still be friends?

Chores this morning. Trying to get things finished ahead of potential power outages on Sunday. We have overhead lines at this house -- doesn't bode well. 

Have a good day -- whatever kind of good. Later gators.

New-Old Purse. Ice Storm?? Theme of the Week.

As promised ... the new-old purse.

I've been looking for years (no exaggeration).

Big.

Shoulder handle.

Stylish.

Zipper.

All-season brown.

Bonus if it has a colorful lining.

Bonus if it's pre-owned.

Extra bonus if it's vintage.

This is a brand from Italy (Il Bisonte) and the east-west stitch detail is its signature. 

Pre-owned, vintage (2009).

Got this for $40.

Checks every box. Took FOREVER to find. 

I would've settled for new and $$ because the search was yielding no results.

Gives me hope for other "wish-list" things. Namely, I want a crow friend to exchange treats -- probably a long way off since I don't see many crows around my house hah. It's a wish for another day, but I'm expecting I WILL find this friend eventually.

Remember how I moaned about the too-warm temperatures -- well, I got my wish, but the universe said I'll give you cold AND add the threat of a major ice storm just because you complained. Dang. 

This means grocery store run and prepping some food (soup). 

It's a full rest of the week, but I need to fit this in BEFORE shelves are empty.

I have to force myself to go to a seed starting class today. It's outside and I've gone for the last 2 years so my brain is arguing that I don't need to go ... but I learn something every year. And I planned to go. It's been on my calendar for 2 months. I paid the $7. Just GO already!!

Then I know I'll need to force myself to go to the women's action group monthly meeting -- not until 7 o'clock. I won't get home until 10. Geez. I'll want to be in pjs, under a blanket, with my book. But it's important and a couple of interesting speakers. I'll be glad I went, but will hate going.

"Forcing" myself seems to be the theme this week. Lots of things I need to do -- important to me, important to others, important to future me ... but nothing I WANT to do.

And a number of inconvenient hiccups that I won't bother to detail, but it's making these things just that little bit more inconvenient -- trying to tip the scales, but, alas, I'm not giving in *sigh* ...

Utilizing the trick to NOT think about them. The dread is the absolute worst part and that's totally in my control. I feel like I have no time, but I actually have plenty of time. Big girl panties securely in place. 

Have a good day. Stay warm. Get to the grocery store ASAP. Later gators.

An Update and a Rant

Some movement on the volunteer situation.

Emergency visit yesterday morning after a long phone call.

Using imagination for solutions.

Heading back this morning for a hands-on day (in a house with 4 very sick people -- ugh).

I'll mask, but I'm not feeling overly confident I can ward off the germs.

But this is too important. 

Trying to help the family move away from a crisis. 

Some people have the world stacked against them. 

It's been eye-opening to see our "systems" in action and the loopholes and the less-known ways the system contributes to the problem, rather than helps, etc, etc, etc.

Anyway -- that'll be my day today. 

I HAD an appointment to talk about volunteering at my new library this morning. I texted to reschedule -- no answer. I emailed to confirm she saw my message. The response was respectful (i.e. foster children come first), but she'd expects a firm commitment with no canceling so "maybe" this isn't the best fit, but she'd still could meet with me if I thought I could hold a commitment. Ouch.

Yes -- couldn't agree more that it's not a good fit after her lengthy response (this was a reschedule of an informal 'hello' while she was doing her shift). I sent a reply and ended the inquiry. 

The response spoke volumes about how she runs the program and her volunteers. I appreciate her directness because it solidified a decision quickly. And P.S. she originally wanted to meet Monday -- I had to let her know the library was closed. And P.P.S. she asked for a text for last minute corresponding and she "forgot" to reply to mine yesterday. 

Do I sound a little bitter?? Guess so. Felt like a slap since I pride myself on holding commitments. This was a specific exception because it was hardly a commitment. First she said just drop in. Then she asked me to come Monday. Then she wanted a time on Tuesday. She's the one that seems wishy-washy.

Got to "date" around and not settle. Staying on the sub list at my old library for now. I'll think this is (sadly) something that is fading away. I LOVE volunteering at my old library. And why?? The person who runs it does such a fantastic job. She puts out an injury for a substitute and it gets filled within minutes. That's how you run the program.

Didn't expect that little rant this morning. Her response got my panties in a wad -- even though I'm grateful to know EARLY that this isn't a match.

I promise back to regular scheduled "nothing" tomorrow. 

I got a "new" purse -- prepare your heart. 

She's used, inexpensive, just what I want, searched for years.

Have a good Tuesday. Later gators.

MLK Day

Good morning.

I'm a bit on a struggle bus right now. 

I'm not even sure how to talk about it. 

What the actual f*&k is happening in our government?

Why is no one stopping him?

I'm scared for all of us -- more scared for many though.

My volunteer position is also in a crisis right now.

It was going so well for the family.

The transition was expected to be hard, but I worry it's actually failing. 

What I do, what I report, has consequences and I need to tread carefully.

That responsibility feels heavy.

And then this dichotomy ...

So much is going well in my little bubble.

My son found a good job. 

My grandson is a delight.

Mending family conflicts.

Social stuff is going strong in a very connected and intentional way. 

People saying 'yes' -- reaching out to me.

And I'm sad and scared and worried and deflated. I want to curl up in bed and hide from all of it. The good and the bad. 

Should I try to boost myself up?

Should I give into the feelings?

Then some selfish thoughts. Will I ruin the intentional connection and such because I can't pull out of this mood? Will my energy dive and then not "match" these new moments? Will I lose what I worked for? Where should my feelings be? How much of "other's" pain should I absorb?

I'm good at compartmentalizing (had to as a nurse) -- should I do that now? Why can't I do that now?

It feels wrong to pretend or ignore since MY life is okay, but there feels like absolutely no end in sight for the bigger picture pain. Pretending feels like self-preservation. But why am I so fortunate when others aren't? There's a big layer of guilt. 

Hello, Monday. Are you glad you're reading along?? Sorry for the downer to start the week -- especially if you are starting on a good note. I'll find a way up. Helping helps. 

I read this quote ....

"Worry is a poor use of imagination."

On a final note -- adding to the problem is using crappy coping mechanisms in FULL FORM. Eating junk. Watching junk. Sofa slugging. Procrastinating. I even had a glass of wine yesterday -- in hopes of a distraction. (Of course, nope, didn't work ... made it worse.) 

And I want to do that all again today (minus the wine). Usually this doesn't hit until afternoon. Starting from the minute I wake up is not good.

Enough of all of this.

I'll finish up.

Have a good Monday. Later gators.

Rock Gathering Debut

Met for Friday coffee. 

Focused on community work.

Meetings set, projects identified.

We're also having fun. 

Another dinner scheduled.

We need both. 

The work.

The fun.

In community with each other. In-person. Together. Accepting. Welcoming. 

It's good for right now.

Drum roll ... rock painting gathering. My aunt went first. I need to spray them. I hope the black outline pen she used doesn't run -- she says it won't. I learned a bit about setup and what people will need to know when I host small groups. 

Mine

Wimsy

She wasn't happy she painted
the dog brown, but she did this
in 5 mintes. 

The snake is growing ...

Last of the social days for the week.

Bookclub -- looks like 5 of us, and that will change last minute -- my guess, 3. 

Babysitting our grandson too. No details yet ... overnight? at their house? at our house? what time?

The week was a mix and I'm feeling done. Mostly good things, but losing Monti is a heavy sadness right now. I think that's why I feel tired -- not sleepy tired, more needing quiet and space tired. 

I've been the driver for most of the activity this week too -- nothing hard, nothing major, but coordinating is an added layer of energy and everyday was a coordination. I can tell I'm overstretched because I'm not super excited about today -- more excited to have today finished. 

Going forward, I need to watch my involvement in the women's action group -- pick my focus, pick my interest. The social is good, but I also need to tread lightly. I can get burned out from people -- not my favorite thing about myself, but it's the reality. Next week is a big group week, but I won't sustain that level of involvement every week. 

Some of the projects interest me a lot; others, not at all. I don't want to get pulled into "everything" -- service AND social. 

I've said this before, I can get into times where I get a little manic about "doing" -- yes to everything. Planning, searching, scheduling. I recognize it more quickly now and I know to hold steady, brake a bit, and be intentional. 

SPACE.

I pulled a few things off the "tentative" calendar.

Quieted down the schedule a bit.

Leaving room.

Leaving space.

Being intentional and selective.

Listening to what feels important to me, in this moment. 

I've rambled a lot this morning. Off to spray the rocks (fingers crossed).

Hope you have a good day. Later gators.

Slow Burn Friendship

I had an incredible lunch yesterday -- really a wonderful afternoon.

This friendship has been a super slow burn. We met when she applied to adopt a dog I was fostering about 6 years ago (didn't work out because of her cat). She wore a t-shirt from Refuge Coffee and I commented on it and we were off ... ever so slowly. 

She actually transferred out of the area and back again in those 6 years. 

We talked for almost 3 hours and have a lot more in common than I knew. We'll continue letting the relationship be what it is -- no pushing, but I hope it continues to grow. 

We sat and talked so long, the owner brought us warm cups of tea -- how lovely was that? She said, so we could linger a bit longer in our conversation. 

That's the energy this woman brings to things -- she's warm and kind. She walks the walk like no other person I know. Very inspiring. 

After lunch I walked to a new coffee and sandwich shop -- two brothers, one Michelin star chef. GF bread coming soon. It's really a nice vibe. It's the furthest point in town from my house, but still walkable. I'll be checking out the food when they get GF bread. 

Then I walked across the street to a  hole-in-the-wall, no frills, Indian restaurant. Recipes are from the owner's mother. No English so it was hard to figure out gluten -- it should be naturally GF, but sometimes flour is added to bind. I got a lentil stew for dinner takeout. Absolutely delicious. 

Usual coffee meetup this morning.

Then lunch with my aunt.

And ... ta-da ... first rock painting gathering with her.

She's an artist so I'm starting with the best.

I need to experiment with setup and such.

How much should I prep ahead, etc. 

Pictures to come.

Last note ... I talk about all the little things that are making me happy or sad or frustrated AND the country is a shit show. So much suffering and hate. Awful, awful things. Scary beyond measure. Heartbreaking. 

I'm feeling all that.

I'm taking action.

I'm not sitting quietly. 

But, I don't want to talk about it here (often) because I need moments it doesn't touch. I was signing off to say, have a happy Friday, and that felt wrong. How can any of us have a happy day? But happy can live in small moments and focusing on them helps. Look at the memorial service in MN -- beautiful, joyful, kind. We can't let them take that from us.

We're in this together and we need that connection and those little moments. 

So I'll say, let's find that today AND let's take action.

We can and must do this. Later gators.

Chaos-ish

The playdate was quite chaotic -- totally on my end. 

Cleaning team had an issue and needed to come early.

You guessed it, same time as the playdate. 

I should've said no, but I thought I could handle it.

Remember that Duke was having tummy troubles?

Discovered he had pooped and smeared poop from every bit in my craft room.

Rug. Floor. Chair.

Sometime the day before so it was dried and crusty -- I had to rehydrate it to clean it up.

GROSS.

Took me almost 30 minutes to get it sort of cleaned. 

Ordered a new rug. 

Can't tell what's the old stains (old rug from Marketplace) or remnants of diarrhea-gate. 

I'd have to get the rug professionally cleaned and at that point, I'm calling it. 

I was spinning. Everything was crazy. 

And yet, fun morning.

Kids were cute together.

We had at the best truck day on our street.

Fascinating for my grandson.

Park was fun.

Just us for lunch and then home to sit on the porch and watch the construction equipment. 

And, it was garbage day.

Very exciting for a 2 year old. 

Granny day wore me out though. 

I'm teetering on "too much" this week. 

The balance is off because of the dog things this week.

I'm hoping for calmer today -- trying not to task my immune system in this germ-filled month.

I meeting a friend for an early lunch today. First time she's coming my way -- usually meet at Refuge Coffee in Clarkston. Then I'll check out the new coffee shop. 

Got my wish and it's WINTER today in Georgia. I'll have a lot of walking errands and I'll enjoy all of them. 

Have a good day too. Later gators.

Sleep

I slept through the night -- can't remember last time that happened. I feel asleep and woke (with a crazy full bladder) at 4:45. Not even my bladder could rouse me earlier. 

Dinner was nice. 

The restaurant was good, conversation and company, even better. 

Of course, I walked and that delights me. 

Got recommendations for 2 places I've had my eye on -- now it's a go. I'll try to get to the new coffee shop today, because, of course I will. Oddly, Wednesday is the only day it opens later so it'll need to be in the afternoon (or tomorrow). The other is Indian take-out -- all recipes from the owner's mother. That means it's good. Both are on the north end of town and I only noticed them while stopped at a traffic light. Walkable, but it's further than I usually venture, hence the delay checking them out.

My social card is FULL this week.

First ever playdate with my friend, her 2 year old granddaughter, and my grandson this morning. It'll probably be short and not sure they'll actually play together, but giving it a go. My plan is play for an hour and walk to lunch via the playground. Let's see who's up for that -- I know me and my grandson are in lol.

My son got a job offer yesterday. 

Better than his previous. 

Proud of him. 

Some extra random bits from the day ....

I have a set of flannel pjs that I like, but the top had slits halfway up the sides. I'd move and there was my belly. Took them to the dry cleaner and had the sides stitched up -- $5. Now it's fantastic. I almost tossed the top and kept the bottoms. I also had them stitch up mittens that had ripped -- my favorite mittens. Since I can't sew, it's the next best thing. Picked them up yesterday and it was a double win.

I misplaced my ear bud container while I was using the ear buds. Knew it was in one of three rooms. Had to leave for dinner, so I paused the search. Came home, couldn't find it to save my soul. Trash day, so I said, best look through the kitchen trash before I take it out -- that would be the ONLY way I wouldn't find them hahaha.

Yep, in the trash.

Good lord.

Sleep deprived brain yesterday.

Very lucky.

I'm going to get going. I have some toy prep and play date prep to get ready. He's coming over early so we get some regular playtime before guests. 

The week is improving -- hope yours is a good one too. Later gators. 

Regrouping

Sad day yesterday.

I knew we'd say goodbye this week, but wasn't sure when.

His last night was a rough one and he needed to be at peace.

I called the vet first thing and they took us right away.

I think I'm all cried out now. His passing was peaceful, but it was hard coming home without him. I miss him -- we got almost 6 years, but it felt too short. Doesn't it always?

Okay, moving on or I'll start crying again. 

Last night was our town's city hall meeting with the swearing in of the newly elected -- the campaigns I got involved with. Reception in the rotunda and then the meeting.

Lots of women from our group. I didn't want to miss the night, but I was a long day to get myself out for the evening.

I went with my local friend and we met for dinner first. Husbands were supposed to come, but bagged out. It was good to get out early and stay out so I could stay awake. 

This new Thai-inspired restaurant has the most unusual food -- absolutely delicious. My second time there. I got a couple of starters and blue rice (an edible flower infused, but it tasted like regular rice). It's a block from my house. Only lunch on the weekends, but we can do an early dinner weeknights.

Coconut that tasted like calamari.
Charred cabbage with incredible flavors.
Pretty blue rice, but needed a flavor.
I ordered the rice just to try it.

Regrouping today. 

My other dog isn't tolerating his new food.

Up twice to go out last night. 

Back to the drawing board AND chicken/rice for a few days.

Hoping for a full sleep tonight -- I'm worn out.

Nothing on the calendar today until a dinner tonight for restaurant week (with the ladies from Friday coffee). Taco Tuesday -- during a happy hour (hopefully it's quiet because I'm not into loud, close talking during flu season).

I have a little guilt that it feels immensely easier without Monti. His diseases and doggie dementia had taken over and he was constant work (and always so unsettled -- sweet boy). 

There's a stress that's gone -- stress trying to get him comfortable, stress watching him constantly, stress knowing the ending was near and we'd have to make that decision. 

This is a "big" week for me socially and I'm hoping I don't get sick {*knock wood*} -- sleep's been poor and stress high. Everyone and their mother is sick too and I'm totally out-n-about in the mix of people. Not a good immune combination. 

I'll take a little extra care of myself today. 

Enjoy the seasonal temps (finally!!!!!).

I have some walking errands to do today and you know how much I love walking about the town. 

The cold, crisp weather does a body good.

Last night I needed to wind down before I could go to sleep. Read a bit and then shopped eBay for a purse. Stay tuned -- I got 2. Rather bad habit unlocked -- my son gets most of his clothes from eBay and started me down that rabbit hole. I'm trying not to eat or scroll at night -- so the smart thing is to replace that with a shopping addiction -- hah!!

Hope you (we) have a good day. Later gators.

Godspeed, Sweet Monti

We said goodbye to Monti today.

I knew it was coming.

I'm really sad -- love that little poodle.

Feels like part of our family is missing.

The house is too quiet. 

I'd like to think he was welcomed by all our family dogs who went before him and he's happy and running free. Hugs and kisses, sweetest boy.

I want those baby treats too!

Going for coffee a couple of months ago.

His adoption photos

Just adopted him in 2020

Our last night together.

Regular Programming

Back to regular scheduled programming now that the "lists" posts are finished.

It's interesting to look back at older years too. I have lists back to 2022. Wonder if some year I should do a list of the things I didn't do from all those years -- the ones that still could be possible or still hold an interest? Hmmmm ... maybe.

I went to 2 talks on Saturday with the author of Skylark -- Paula McLain. 

(And, The Paris Wife.)

Bumping this up on my TBR
while my interest is peaked.

Morning writing workshop -- fabulous, even though I'm not a writer or an aspiring writer. 

Loved her talk.

Loved the writing exercises using memory and imagination (great for FS work).

Afternoon was with a friend for the talk about Skylark.

The author was tired and you could tell.

The talk was flat.

Bummer, but the venue is great.

I'm glad I went for the writing workshop too -- best part.

I finished the morning class and the rain had let up so I decided to walk from the Art Center to the new bakery to get sourdough bread for Sunday. Only a half mile to the bakery from where I was parked.

I walk fast.

Halfway there, downpour to end all downpours.

Even my HUGE clear umbrella didn't help.

I was drenched from mid-back to my toes.

No joke, cars driving by splashing a wall of water.

Barely a dry spot on me.

Guess it's not always the best idea to walk.

Had to wash and dry my entire outfit before the afternoon.

Kids over for football yesterday.

Vintage outfit for this week.

Painted another rock for the snake rock.

Maybe looks a little like boobs??

Started this book on recommendation from my bookclub friend I saw on Saturday. She said it's so excellent that she expects it'll be her top book of 2026 -- seriously? already? of course I must read it ASAP. 

See that cute checkered blanket with all the colors behind the book?

Purchased at the bakery on Saturday -- yep, they sell odd mashup of things too.

Walked it in the pouring rain.

Protected the blanket and the bread for dear life, hah. 

Both were safe and sound (and dry).

Couldn't pass up a blanket full of colors. 

The box of matchbox cars came from eBay. 

Took out about ten.

Delighted our grandson.

So much, that there was NO nap!

The racetrack beckoned and the toddler answered. 

I'll fill you in on today, next chat. This was a long one. 

Lots of fun happening this week. And, probably some sad too.

Happy Monday. Later gators.

Drumroll ... 26 for 2026 List

(1)  Art Wall: Almost finished right out of the gate. Filling 5 frames.

(2)  Camino trip BOOKED: 

We're hoping for the fall, but will accept a trip BOOKED for next year too.

Dang, my foot makes me wonder if it's possible. 

(3)  Snake Rock with friends: in the works

(4)  3 Fall 5K races (same ones as last year -- it was a lot of fun)

(5)  (-) 2 minutes off running time for 5K: hardy goal considering I can't even walk now.

(6)  Pride & Prejudice flight: 

3 books.

-Original

-Spanish added (Spanish snuck in a little)

-Modern retelling

(7)  Screen in back porch: also in the works as of yesterday

(8)  Paint LFL: I want to paint a picture on the sides.

(9)  Stain deck in Asheville: we've been putting this off for 2 years

(10)  Ribbon chain: 

Craft project for the year. 

Idea from my bestie. 

I'll use all sorts of ribbon scraps.

For some reason, this delights me.

(11) Grow room: didn't have this last year because of the move

(12)  Paint bench x2

Small bench (stool) in my craft room: (me)

Hallway bench on main floor: (painters)

(13)  Paint a water color to frame on the art wall

(14)  New volunteer assignment: my current one should end by the summer

(15)  Garden give-aways: I love this part of gardening

(16)  Use Pottery Gift Card: in the works

(17)  Go to local movie theater: renovated local historic theater 

(18)  Performing Art Center: went yesterday, more to come

(19)  Host 3 "easy" spontaneous lunches: 

"Hey, making soup, come over for lunch today."

Nothing fancy, nothing themed.

Just cook a meal for friends.

(20)  Wear vintage outfit once a week:

Something in the outfit vintage.

I don't want to dress this way everyday, but it's fun to feel artsy.

(21)  HBD celebration trip with my sister

Our birthdays are a week apart and she lives in Asheville now.

We said we'd start this year, but timing didn't work for her.

(22)  May-Days

We are dedicating the first weekend in May to get our family together.

My sister and her family + me and my family.

Next generation.

Cute name for the weekend :) 

(23)  Kennesaw Double Hike

12.5 miles of HARD hiking

Also, not starting well with a hurt foot and no hiking for a month so far.

(24)  Computer Museum in our town

Something to do with hubby.

Our town is oddly proud of this so I want to say I've seen it.

(25)  Tuesday hiking group to Asheville 

4 of us have connections in Asheville

(26)  Wild Card

Something spontaneous. 

What do you think? 

I like this year. 

I think it could be my most "done" list.

Hardest: Camino

First: Art Wall

Least likely: 2 minutes off run (not sure I can stay injury-free long enough to train faster)

Out of my control: Hiking group to Asheville and HBD trip with my sister

Most looking forward to doing: oddly ... 3 spontaneous lunches (not sure why this is my answer)

Least looking forward to doing: PLANNING the Camino

My color last year was Aqua Blue and this year it's Harvest Gold.

Never planned a color for the year.

Just happened.

Wonder if this will continue??

Word: SPACE

Motto: Back for a 3rd time ... "Choose the bigger life." 

There you have it. 

I hope we all have a good 2026.

I want the list to be about me (and positive), but you know what I really, really want ... yep, be gone orange man. Maybe I call this my prediction for the year and my hope for humanity.

Later gators.